Mother-in-law told bride-to-be that she would have to dye her hair for the big day

Your wedding day is supposed to be one of the most wonderful days of your life. It is the day you marry your best friend and vow to love one another for the rest of your days. You are surrounded by your nearest and dearest family and friends. For most, this day took weeks and months to put together, they have carefully selected every person in the wedding party, from the decor to the million other little details that need attention when planning your special day. The one thing a bride does not think she needs to worry about is a comment from her mother-in-law regarding her hair color. Future relative relationships are always somewhat complicated, considering one side is new to the other usually. In this case, the groom’s mother took things to a whole other level with her request of the bride on her very own wedding day. It is unorthodox, to say the least, and the way the bride reacted is a tale of the new family dynamic and how interesting it can be.

Wedding planning

There are many details that go into planning a wedding and the two people that truly make the final decision are not, surprisingly, the bride and groom. The couple may decide to seek the advice of their friends, family, and other professionals in the industry, but it is advice and not the strict path.

So when the bride was asked by her future mother-in-law to dye her hair for the big day, it was not received well.

Nameless

Our bride has decided to remain anonymous while she posted her mother-in-law wedding fiasco on Reddit. The bride wanted to share with others her ordeal with her mother-in-law so that she could get some advice as to what she could do to let her future mother-in-law down easy.

However, what the bride did not expect is the amount of traction and attention her post would garner therefore soon after posting, she deleted it. She did not want it getting back to her mother-in-law considering their relationship was already an unsteady one. Asking her to dye her hair? Unsteady indeed.

Matchy matchy

The reasoning behind why the mother-in-law wanted the bride to dye her hair is due to the fact that they both had red hair. The bride has natural red hair, while the mother-in-law dyes hers. Clearly, the bride was not about to dye her hair and often spoke out about how much she loved her hair color.

There is absolutely no way people would confuse the two of them considering the fact that one will be in a wedding gown and one will not. This was quickly turning into an uncomfortable situation, not to mention the mother-in-law asking something completely inappropriate.

Getting to the root of it

Our bride is a smart one, she was not going to dye her hair and found it very hypocritical that her future mother-in-law would ask such a thing when she herself dyes her hair to a very similar color. The bride thought that there was more to her mother-in-law’s request than just not liking her hair color.

While she was not about to dye her hair under any condition, she wanted to delve a little deeper in order to figure out why her mother-in-law was making such a request; something did not add up.

Stubborn MIL

Our bride continued to be adamantly against dying her hair, yet her mother-in-law was not about to give up. She said that the bride should dye her hair for the sake of the other wedding guests and her future husband. She went as far as asking the bride if she wants the groom to feel uncomfortable.

The bride was not budging nonetheless and continued to refuse the thought of dying her hair. However, she was still perplexed as to why she wanted her to do it so badly. There was definitely more to this than hair color similarity.

Stirring the pot

Taking a few steps back, we learned that the two families of these love birds were not all too happy about their union. The two met and got engaged within six months, as well as followed that up by moving over 1,500 miles away from their respective families.

Their wedding is planned for Fall of 2019. The future groom is former military and his family had finally gotten him home, only to see him move again.

Not what mom wanted

The Mother-in-law and future daughter-in-law had a decent relationship before the couple got engaged and decided to move. However, once that happened, the mom did not react well or approve in any way.

Mom wanted her son to settle just down the road and raise his future family where she would always be around, especially since he was gone for so much of his life due to completing his military service. Mom was most unhappy.

Text message

While mom was not happy about this union, she wanted to be involved in the wedding planning and so kept an ongoing text messaging conversation where she would ask questions and send her suggestions for things, all pretty innocent stuff.

When she asked the bride what she was planning on doing with her hair for the big day, the bride sent over a few photos that were to be the inspiration for her wedding day hair.

Red head

Pretty quickly after that text, the bride learned that her future mother-in-law meant what color her hair was going to be on the big day. The bride informed her mother-in-law that she had absolutely no intention of coloring her hair, especially prior to the day.

She was going to be the focus of all photographer who will be documenting the event and the images to be a reminder for the happiest day of her life.

Uncomfortable exchange

The mother-in-law was now taking a more aggressive tone with the bride. She asked her if she did not think it was strange that the bride and her future mother would have the same hair color.

She continued with the tone of seemingly having the bride’s best interest in her sights but the bride was nothing but confused as the two did not even have the same shade of red to their hair. It was all very strange.

Words

Still not understanding why her mother-in-law was making such a big deal about her hair color, she decided to keep things peaceful and to use her words to settle the situation.

She told her future MIL that her whole family has red hair and that it is just a coincidence that she too has that color. She finished their texting exchange by telling her that it was not a worry and that everything will be fine.

Unhappy MIL

A mere two days after their texting conversation, that MIL was still unhappy that she did not get her way and decided to try again. She asked the bride to reconsider her hair color choice for the wedding and noted that she was still upset about the bride’s decision to keep her red hair for the day.

She said she did not want others to judge her on her wedding day – which makes absolutely no sense.

Denial

The bride assured her future MIL that there is nothing to worry about as her own family is all filled with redheads too. However, MIL was not about to give up just yet, she recruited her sister on the mission.

She told the bride that her sister already mentioned something about how the two can be confused in wedding photos and that that may make the groom the aforementioned uncomfortable. This is getting a little much.

Reddit

It was at this very point that the bride turned to Reddit for advice. The bride was at a loss as to what to do with her future MIL and was so confused as to what she could do to have her MIL back off.

She could not fathom that her future husband would take issue with the fact that his future wife and mother have the same hair color as if he would be attracted to his mother.

Advice

The people on Reddit who gave the bride advice told her that she needed to be kind about it but to tell her MIL once and for all that she is not going to dye her hair. The bride suggested that she speak with her future aunt so as to make sure that they are on good terms considering what she thought about the hair situation.

The MIL told her not to, making the bride suspicious and considering that her MIL made it all up.

Emotional turn

As a reply to the bride’s text, the MIL told her that she loved her red hair as it symbolized her survival from cancer and chemotherapy back in 2013.

She said she did not know if she would get the chance to see her son marry and so she was not going to be asked to color her hair. At this, the bride was confused as she never told her MIL she needed to dye her hair.

The redder the better

It was quite the opposite, the bride was happy to have more redheads. She even told her MIL she would love to help her find a dress for the wedding.

The MIL was still not sold on the fact that she did not need to dye her hair. The bride reassured her MIL that there was no need at all. Where was she getting this from?

The truth

Finally, the MIL told the bride the truth about her issues with her. She said that it was simple for the woman to say that she needn’t worry about the hair issue, but that the MIL is the one who has to answer people who bring it up.

Also, the MIL is very unhappy about the fact that the couple moved away and do not seem to care enough to spend time with family. The bride was stunned by this.

Once and for all

At this, the bride told her MIL that she is not dying her hair and that is final. The bride decided not to tell her future husband about the fact that she had a full-on debate with his mother as she did not want to upset him.

The bride went on to continue her wedding planning with no thought about her hair and complete confidence that she will not dye her hair for the wedding under any circumstance.

Deleting the Reddit post

The bride decided to remove the post from Reddit but not before she saw that it garnered thousands of comments from people having a say in the matter.

She did not want the story to get out as the relationship between the two women was strained enough at this point. The wedding is still on as planned and we can only hope that the bride remained true to herself and her hair remains red.

Refraining from sharing

Many of the people on Reddit advised the bride to tell her future husband what was going on considering it is his mother who is doing all of this. However, she decided to refrain from sharing her tale with her boyfriend so as to keep everything calm.

She said she would probably share it with him one day, but not for a very long time; he had his own share of worries and she did not want to make things worse.

Dramatic MIL

Another unfortunate instance of a MIL gone dramatic, the MIL of the bride had also over exaggerated her battle with cancer as her fiance told her that his mother’s cancer was caught very early and that she needed only one round of treatment.

She proceeded to send out a will to the family and advising them that she does not have much time left, which in reality was a complete fallacy. Clearly, this woman was crying out for attention.

Viral post

While the bride deleted her post, it was not before others managed to get a hold of it. You know what they say, once it is on the internet it is never really gone. The story got picked up by website after website, which was the last thing the bride wanted to happen.

She did not want to shame her MIL or upset anyone, she just wanted advice in a moment of weakness. She most certainly learned her lesson.