Bride tells her fiancé to get a second job to pay for their wedding after quitting hers

It’s concerning just how expensive weddings are. While you can have one super cheap by getting married in the town hall, most couples like to splash out on their big day. They spend tens of thousands of dollars on the ceremony and reception, leaving very little money for other things in their life. Unfortunately, that often blows back in their faces, just as it did with this bride. No-one, including her fiancé, approved of her desire for an expensive wedding.

The perfect wedding

Like many people, this woman had been dreaming of the day she’d walk down the aisle ever since she was a kid. She’d been picturing things like what her dress would look like and what flowers she’d have for so many years.

However, all that devotion to her wedding had a negative effect on her. The more she thought about her special day, the more determined she became to make it a reality, no matter what.

What she’d been waiting for

When her partner popped the question, we don’t doubt that this woman was over the moon. Not only did her other half want to marry her, but she finally had an opportunity to live out her wedding dreams.

She could now bring all those thoughts about dresses, floral arrangements, and the like into conversations with her fiancé. They no longer had to sit at the back of her mind waiting for the right moment to make themselves known. With their engagement official, the woman wasted no time launching into wedding planning mode, but she soon hit a bump in the road.

Too much to balance

The bride was so devoted to her upcoming wedding that she spent every possible second thinking about it. Unfortunately, there was only so much time in the day to plan the special ceremony. She soon found that she wasn’t able to juggle all of her work commitments with her plans for the big day.

It didn’t help that she was losing time out of her schedule by driving to and from work, as well as getting ready in the mornings. All these little things took up her precious time, and they started driving the woman wild. Something needed to give eventually.

Time to quit

Realizing she had to commit to her wedding planning full time, the bride chose to walk away from her job. It was a huge decision to make, especially given she needed money to pay for her big day. However, she knew she couldn’t continue distracting herself with work commitments anymore.

There were far too many aspects of the wedding she needed to deal with, and having a job was just getting in the way of that. We’re not sure what her fiancé made of this bold decision. However, we do know how he responded after the bride made an incredible demand of him.

Pushing him to the limit

Seeing as they still needed to pay for the wedding, the woman asked her fiancé to get himself a second job. Presumably, the man already worked full-time and was putting a fair share of his income towards the big day. However, that wasn’t enough for his bride.

She wanted him to work himself to the bone so she could afford the wedding of her dreams. All the while she’d be at home making arrangements and putting his money towards everything that she wanted. It was a massive ask of her partner, and we can’t say that we’re too surprised by his response.

Out of the question

Despite the bride’s desperation, the man refused to find himself a second job. He already spent enough of his time at work, and the last thing he wanted was to give away even more of it. That’s a perfectly reasonable response, especially if he was in a full-time position.

However, his partner didn’t seem to agree. She was upset that he wouldn’t do this thing for her and wanted to know why he was trying to ruin their wedding.

Too much tension

With both sides refusing to do what the other wanted them to, it wasn’t long before tension got the better of them. The pair started fighting over the wedding, to the point it became the only thing they did.

Every time the topic came up, they ended up at each other’s throats. They didn’t want things to be so heated all the time, but they couldn’t see a solution to their problem. After all, neither was willing to compromise.

From her perspective

The bride was incredibly frustrated that her fiancé didn’t understand where she was coming from. When she was working, she had almost no time to devote to wedding planning. If she was ever going to finish organizing their big day, then she apparently had to be home all the time.

There were no two ways about it, especially as she’d already quit her job. She couldn’t undo what she’d done, even if she’d wanted to.

Looking for extra work

To try and defend her bold decision, the woman apparently started looking for a job she could do from home. She understood that giving up work put them in a bad position financially, so this was a way to fix that.

Unfortunately, finding a new job wasn’t as easy as she’d hoped. She was getting nowhere with her search, and the need to fund the wedding was growing more desperate. That’s why she asked her fiancé for help.

A selfish demand

The problem with this bride’s request is that she was being a major hypocrite. Her reason for leaving her job in the first place was that she didn’t have enough time to do things away from work.

However, by asking her partner to get a second job, she was putting him in that exact same position. If he brought more work into the equation, he’d never have any free time to actually enjoy his life.

Cutting down the costs

Given the fiancé was resistant to get a second job, he suggested that instead they not spend so much on their wedding. The couple was apparently putting a whopping $80,000 into their big day, despite the bride jumping ship from her job.

Her partner figured that reducing the price tag was the best way out of their financial troubles. It meant having to make sacrifices here and there, but that was surely something they could handle, right?

Up against the averages

Spending $80,000 on a wedding is quite a big dedication, especially given the average is apparently around $34,000. That’s more than double what most Americans pay to tie the knot, and we’re not entirely sure what all this money was going towards.

Of course, it depends on what part of the States these two were from. Certain regions are more expensive to get married in than others, with places like New York City averaging roughly $76,000.

Set in her ways

While the fiancé’s suggestion to cut down on costs may have been a decent idea, the bride wouldn’t have any of it. She refused to change anything about the wedding, especially if it meant having to miss out on things.

This was the day she’d been dreaming about for years, and she wasn’t going to let money stand in the way of that. Unfortunately, her stubbornness was steadily pushing her relationship in the wrong direction.

The help of others

Frustrated with the situation and unsure of what to do, the bride turned to social media. She figured that if she posted about her problems on Facebook, other people would know how to resolve them.

So, she took to one of the bridal groups on the site and shared her story. She told the other brides that she’d quit her job to focus on wedding planning and that her fiancé refused to pick up the slack.

Torn to shreds

We assume this woman expected to receive plenty of concerned responses from other brides who shared her pain. However, that’s not what she got – not even close. People wasted no time criticizing the woman and accused her of being selfish.

Their remarks got so bad that comments on the post were eventually disabled. Clearly, a lot of women took offense to her words, and we can see why. The message certainly read like something a spoiled brat would say.

Shared on the internet

One of the women who saw the post apparently shared it with their fiancé, and they then uploaded a screenshot of it on Reddit. Given this site is known for its brutal comments, it’s no massive shock that other users attacked the women for being selfish.

They couldn’t believe that she would write a post like this in all seriousness. She seemed far too stubborn to be genuine, but the bride meant every word that she said.

Enraged in the comments

Basically, every comment on the post called the woman out for being rude and selfish. Her questions like ‘How can I convince him to work a second job to pay for this?’ and ‘What happened to “happy wife, happy life”?’ really got their goat.

They didn’t understand why she was so obsessed with putting her own needs ahead of her partner’s. They were supposed to be a team, yet the only person who seemingly mattered here was her.

Not too late to escape

Most Reddit users advised the fiancé to get out of that relationship while he still could. They acknowledged that the bride’s Facebook post was more than just a red flag, with one person commenting that “Air raid sirens give less warning.”

Virtually no-one on the site believed that this relationship was healthy, and they suggested he think long and hard about getting married. This was surely a sign that things would only get worse once they tied the knot.

Saving their money

Other people were concerned about the amount the couple was putting towards the wedding. While there have no doubt been plenty of ceremonies which cost over $80,000, it’s still an excessive figure to attach to one day of your life.

Commenters expressed their hope that the pair were also saving money for the future; otherwise, they were bound to face problems somewhere down the line. Having cash to retire with is just as important as a big wedding.

An affordable option

Several Reddit users didn’t shy away from comparing this luxury wedding with their own ceremonies. They pointed out how much cheaper their big days were, with some people spending as little as $400 on the whole thing.

In their eyes, a fancy venue and the expensive dress didn’t measure up to spending a day surrounded by the people you love. They said that it’s the guests who truly make a wedding special, and others agreed with them.

It takes two to tango

One of the biggest concerns with this whole situation is the bride forgetting there are two people in a marriage. Her partner’s desires are as valid as hers, even if he hasn’t been thinking about this day for all his life.

If he doesn’t want to work himself to the bone to pay for the wedding, he shouldn’t have to. She isn’t doing him a favor by planning the whole thing if that’s the price he has to pay.

Sabotaging their future

Someone made the unfortunate point that the bride seems to be more bothered about the wedding rather than her actual marriage. One only lasts a day, while the other is supposed to last a lifetime. However, she seems to have her priorities the wrong way round, something which could seriously derail her relationship.

Unless she wants to scare her partner off before they’ve even tied the knot, she might wish to rethink how she tackles their big day.

Priorities in order

We’ve no idea what the outcome of all this was, but we only hope someone talked some sense into the woman. There’s nothing wrong with wanting to have the wedding of your dreams, especially if you can afford it.

However, the point of tying the knot is to celebrate the love you share with someone else. She and her partner are supposed to be a team, and everything they do should be for the benefit of them both.