Planning a wedding usually means there is plenty to do. From booking photographers to choosing a venue, sometimes it feels as though there’s no end to the growing number of jobs on the list. However, one bride baffled her guests with her two-page wedding invitation. While she might have been busy planning her big day, it seemed as though she wanted everyone to be on the same two pages in the build-up to the day.
One of the many things at the top of couples’ to-do lists when planning their big day is sending out their wedding invites. After all, most people want to ensure their guests can make it to the ceremony. Although there is usually a lot of detail that goes into the invites, one bride was about to baffle her guests. Not only was she inviting people to her wedding, but she was also sending out a two-page letter.
Stating the rules
The wedding invites usually have a host of important information. As well as telling guests when you will be getting married, they typically inform people where they need to be and when. The best bit?
These invites can also be a chance to write out any rules. Some couples want to make sure there are no children at their wedding, while others want to make sure their guests stick to the color scheme of the event. It looked as though one woman had plenty to say to her guests. Now, they would learn everything they needed to know from her letter.
To the internet
It appeared as though one guest was so surprised by the two-page invite that their friend soon posted it to social media. Sadly, the letter found itself on one of the many wedding shaming groups on the internet.
They have become one of the newest trends for guests from all around the world to share their experiences. Some talk of people’s behavior while others comment on aspects of the ceremony that has left them feeling less than impressed. It might not be long before hundreds or thousands of people comment as they all try to shame the people at the wedding.
The last minute
The bride writing the letter wanted to start by apologizing to her guests. It looked as though she had left her invites pretty late, and she knew that many people might not be able to make it to her big day as a result. A lot of guests need to take time off work to make it to weddings, especially if they are held in the week.
This bride planned her big day on a Wednesday. Leaving her invitations to the last minute meant that it was probably even more unlikely that all of her guests would be able to make it to the day.
Just the beginning
It turned out there might have been a good reason that the couple were unable to send their invites until now. The pair needed to find a venue that was absolutely perfect for their big day. Plus, the bride still had plenty of explaining to do about why finding somewhere was so tricky.
However, the bride wanted to thank everyone for their patience. It wasn’t long before the bride delved into one of the many stories behind her wedding plans. This was merely the beginning of two pages that would give her guests more of an insight into the big day than many would have ever believed.
Thinking of solutions
Although the couple had left their invites until the last minute, they had carefully thought of a plan to help any of the guests who were unable to make it to the big day. They decided to hold a live video that people could watch or save it for later until they had time to enjoy the ceremony.
It seemed as though the couple wanted as many people as possible to be a part of the day.
Plenty of options
The bride had also thought of another way for the missing guests to be a part of the celebration. The couple wanted to hold a wedding potluck for anyone who couldn’t make it to the big day. This would be the perfect way for people to celebrate their marriage without having to take any time off work.
As if that wasn’t enough, the pair planned their wedding potluck for the weekend after their official ceremony.
Another chance
It turned out the wedding couldn’t be a lengthy affair as they only had the venue for a few hours before they needed to pack up and leave. Some couples want to party till the early hours of the next day.
Sadly, this pair didn’t appear to have much of a choice. Thankfully, the potluck would be a chance for everyone to meet new people from both families as well as share any wedding speeches.
Nothing to chance
The bride wanted to make sure that all of her guests knew what they needed to bring to the potluck, so decided the best way to keep things running smoothly was to create a social media group. The bride was worried that people might bring a variety of the same meal.
However, they could now discuss their plans to avoid any mix-ups. This was just the beginning as there was still plenty to come from the letter.
Alternative gifts
It appeared as though the couple had thought of everything – even down to their wedding gift list. The bride wrote that they already owned everything they needed and that people’s gifts would be wasted on them. However, the guests could still donate to a honeyfund instead.
The pair would then use this money to pay for their honeymoon, but they had no idea where they were heading until they knew how much money they had to spend.
Making memories
Thankfully, the bride wanted to make it clear that neither of them expected their guests to feel obliged to send any money. In fact, the pair just wanted their guests’ company and to find a way for people to spend time together at their wedding.
Their honeymoon would be a great way for the newlyweds to make ever-lasting memories. However, gifts could fade compared to spending time with their dearly beloved as they celebrate.
More to come
The bride signed off the letter by stating that she understood if people couldn’t make it to the big day. It looked as though that was finally the end of the story. That was until guests kept reading and realized there were still plenty more points to come from the letter.
Some people want to make sure that everyone knows what to expect. However, this bride took it much further than most guests ever imagined.
Choosing colors
Although some couples want their guests to stick to a color scheme, it looked as though this bride wanted to ensure that no one wore anything that made them look a part of the wedding party.
She wanted everyone to know that wearing any shade of pink or champagne was off the cards, but wearing white was acceptable. This was an unusual rule for many who were used to thinking that white was banned from the ceremony.
No time to waste
The wedding reception can be a chance for newlyweds to let their hair down and party with their guests, while the food can be a great way to share favorite flavors and meals. However, it can be tough to cater to everyone, especially if some guests have specific food requirements.
Plus, this couple only had a few hours at their reception. It appeared as though they didn’t want to waste that time on a meal.
An alternative menu
Instead of sending a menu of food to her guests, the bride explained all the different types of cookies that would be served alongside two kinds of milk instead. The couple had also planned a selection of cupcakes and a wedding cake.
Sadly, the bride knew this meant that her guests would need to eat before they arrived. She hoped the smaller meals would be easy to serve up for any children coming to the wedding.
Looking for locations
This bride knew that she needed to get her wedding letter sent to her guests as soon as possible. However, there was still no location for her potluck party. Sure, it might have been planned for just a few days after the wedding, but it appeared as though there were still plenty of things left to organize for the big day.
Guests might have to wait until the last minute for the final details after all.
A helping hand
It might have been a small wedding, but it looked as though the bride had still organized a master of ceremonies for the big day. It’s usually the MC’s job to make sure that the evening goes smoothly and that all of the guests are kept engaged throughout the wedding.
As if that wasn’t enough, many MCs also talk to the caterers, the venue, and anyone else involved in the wedding to make sure it’s all going to plan.
Plenty of jobs
It seemed this MC had another job to add to the list. The couple told their guests they needed to RSVP to the invite. If they forgot, then there would be no seat waiting for them at the ceremony. Plus, no place at the service meant there was no way the couple would allow anyone into their reception.
If anyone arrived unannounced, then the MC would be left with no choice but to ask them to leave.
A clear response
As if that wasn’t enough, the bride also listed out rules about how her guests needed to reply. She wasn’t taking a face-to-face response as an answer. Instead, the bride told the guests they needed to email their answers.
To top it off, the bride asked her guests to inform one of the spouses if they planned on any surprises at the ceremony. It appeared as though she didn’t want to leave anything to chance.
To the point
It wasn’t long before people from across social media took to the post to share their thoughts on the bride’s two-page letter. One commented about how they still had no idea where any of the guests were supposed to be heading or why it took such a long letter to make the point.
They thought the bride should have summed it up in a few bullet points instead to keep things clear and to the point.
Plenty of questions
Others started to wonder why it had taken the couple so long to find a venue. After all, the bride stated they were only serving milk and cookies at the reception. Did nowhere in the area want to accommodate their simple menu? Plus, some people questioned why they needed an MC for an intimate ceremony.
There were still many unanswered questions from the letter, and many were less than impressed with a long letter that left them wondering.
Feeling confused
Many people commenting on the post agreed they felt as though they needed an invite to the wedding after they had taken the time to read the letter. Wedding invitations are usually a few short lines with details about where guests need to be and when they need to arrive.
However, it looked as though this bride wanted to make sure she covered all the bases – even if the letter left some people more confused.
By her side
Thankfully, not everyone was against the bride and her two-page letter. Some pointed out how the couple wasn’t asking for money or gifts as they just wanted people’s company and had gone to a lot of effort to make sure they could accommodate people who couldn’t make it to the ceremony.
Some commenters even pointed out how the bride must be worried about keeping her guests informed about the plans every step of the way.
This story has left us amazed at how people can demand too much when it comes to their wedding. But sometimes the bride is not the rude one, many times the guests can come with refuted requests. Here are some Guest requests that the Bride and Groom couldn’t believe they were being asked.
Table For 10 Please
When you receive a wedding invite, it will usually mention whether or not you have a plus one or is simply for you and your immediate family. One couple mentioned that a family member asked for a table for three and then, just a matter of weeks before the wedding, said they needed spots for ten people.
Wanting to keep everyone happy, the bride and groom found room for them and then the big day came. Literally, none of those family members showed up for the ceremony or the reception.
Friends Versus Acquaintances
As a couple goes about composing their guest list, there is a very difficult selection process that takes place. Who gets an invite, and who does not? Another Redditor delved into whether or not all co-workers should be invited or just those that you actively socialize with outside of work.
They decided that actual friends would make the cut, which seemed to offend a lot of co-workers that they normally only associated with at work. It would seem like the co-workers just wanted an invitation for an open bar and the chance to dance the night away, not to celebrate the happy couple.
Vegans Only
Now, we’re not saying that vegans are picky eaters, but this particular wedding guest definitely seems like they are pretty judgemental of people’s dietary choices. One groom’s sister claimed she would only feel comfortable being seated at a table with vegans for the reception. If she had to sit with anyone else, she would accept vegetarians but absolutely no carnivores.
The reason this was such an odd request was that as a member of the soon-to-be-married couple’s family, it was assumed she would sit with the family, who are not vegan or vegetarian. We guess she is trying to truly lead a meat-free life, starting with her brother’s wedding, which is an odd time to begin.
Adults Only
Unique wedding venues can make a wedding unforgettable, and one couple decided to host theirs in a brewery. This would give their guests a chance to sample their favorite brews and dance the night away amongst kegs with no fear of running out of the effervescent beverage anytime soon.
Yet, one guest seemed to not understand that the adults-only part on the invite meant no children, especially not babies. This guest even went so far as to ask the couple to make sure there was a high chair for their baby. Perhaps they needed a gentle reminder to read the invitation a little bit more closely.
Doggy Bags
As the wedding reception got underway for one Redditor, they saw that a guest seemed to be enthusiastically enjoying their meal. The bride was very happy to see that they were happy, but then the guest approached her with a rather odd request. They wanted to take all of the uneaten food from the reception to go.
They were very particular in how they wanted the food packed up, and they just assumed the couple would be okay with it. The guest seemed to be doing some meal planning with the wedding food and decided portion-controlled sizes would be the best way for them to take it home. The word is still out on whether or not this Redditor agreed to that request.
Something Old
Saying yes to the dress can take a lot of time and then finding the perfect accessories can be a feat in itself. One bride had spent over a year doing just that when her grandmother approached her a couple of months before the big day with the ‘something old’ she should wear.
The sentiment itself was lovely, as it was an heirloom necklace from her family, but the bride wished she had known about it before to make sure it fit with her style aesthetic. There would be no disappointing her grandmother, though, and she wore it proudly.
Time To Cut The Cake
Cutting the cake is always fun for the whole wedding reception. Some brides or grooms stuff a piece of cake into their new spouse’s face which is cause for a lot of laughs. For one bride, her grandmother decided that the cutting of the cake should be a rather formal affair.
In fact, she wanted that first piece of frosted goodness to be sliced with a nice shiny ceremonial sword, not your typical cake knife. The bride wanted to keep her grandmother happy, so she said yes to this and practiced lifting that rather weighty sword.
Travel Allowance
Attending weddings out of state or even out of the country can be pretty costly, which is why if you can’t afford to go, you usually send your regrets as the RSVP. For this husband-to-be’s family, who were not very close to him or his future bride, they requested that the soon-be-married couple pay their way for the wedding.
They fully expected the couple to pay for five of the groom’s family members which included their hotel stays while they were attending the wedding. The cost would have actually been more than all of the wedding costs put together. It was met with a resounding ‘no’ from the happy couple.
RSVP Receipts?
We have literally never heard of an RSVP receipt before, and neither had this bride and groom when their guest asked for an RSVP receipt. He told the couple that he wanted a physical receipt that stated that he was attending the wedding, the date of the wedding, and his meal preference.
This Redditor was completely baffled by this as they had never received one before, but if that’s what their guest needed to prepare, then they could oblige.
Pretentious Preferences
Some people have legitimate food allergies to things like shellfish or nuts, which are totally understandable. Other people have what they like to call ‘food preferences.’ It became apparent to this Redditor that their guests were not actually allergic to certain foods but simply wanted to eat only certain ingredients because they thought that some ingredients were not worthy of their discerning palate.
They got to eat what the bride and groom chose to serve, no exceptions made here.
Lost In Paradise
One Redditor found themselves in a destination wedding conundrum. They had secured a great group rate for all of their guests who were attending the wedding, but once friends of their guests heard about it, they had a lightbulb moment.
The group rate could be applied to any number of people so some of their friends’ family decided to piggyback on the wedding week and book into the resort using that rate. The bride didn’t know if she should be okay with it, and she didn’t mention whether she said ‘yes’, but we know she said, “I do.”
Awkward Encounters
Bridal showers are the time for close friends and family to play games, dress up, and enjoy all sorts of delicious treats. They are not the time to have to meet cousins’ girlfriends during a special family affair, especially if the cousin is not even coming to the shower.
This was simply a strange thing to even ask of the bride, and the Redditor in question had to put her foot down and explain that this was neither the time nor the place to play ‘get to know the family.’
Perfect Timing
Selecting a wedding date takes some careful consideration. You have to decide on the season and then choose a menu that reflects that. For this Redditor, the spouse of her brother decided to both choose the time of the wedding and then dictate that it should be vegan to meet her dietary restrictions.
The bride was having none of that and said she would definitely not wait a year or two to have her wedding while the spouse may or may not be pregnant, and she would provide a vegan option, not the entire menu.
Smile For The Camera
Some people like to be frugal, which is not a bad thing at all but there is a major difference between frugal and cheap. During the wedding photo portion of this Redditor’s wedding, the bridesmaid who had become recently engaged decided it was the perfect time to get some engagement photos.
She figured since the wedding photographer had already been paid, she could get a couple of free shots. The photographer smiled at her and walked away.
Time To Travel
In another case of a family not wanting to pay their travel costs, this Redditor’s future wife’s father wanted his and her step-family’s travel costs covered. It would have ended up costing the couple over $20,000 to pay for that on top of their wedding.
To top it off, after a lot of back and forth, her father, who should have been walking his daughter down the aisle, simply informed the couple that he could not make it to the big day.
Surprise Baby
One couple found themselves at the center of another couple’s drama. This Redditor’s now sister-in-law was upset that her boyfriend had not proposed and miraculously found herself pregnant, which led to a hasty engagement.
After that, she told the Redditor that it would be best if she had her baby shower the weekend they planned to have their wedding, even though the wedding date had been set and a venue booked. They definitely did not change their date.
The Belligerent Bridesmaid
Some promises are made to be broken, especially those made in high school. For this Redditor and bride-to-be, she promised a friend from school that she would be a bridesmaid, which she kept.
Fast forward to the big day, and her so-called friend is an absolute nightmare from missing bridal appointments, ruining her dress, and simply being inappropriate at the reception. Needless to say, the two aren’t friends anymore.
Family Ties
Making sure everyone feels included during the wedding ceremony and reception can take up a lot of energy. This Redditor had a particularly demanding sister-in-law who felt it wasn’t fair that only her son got to be a part of the wedding party, she wanted her daughter in it too.
The bride tried to keep her happy by letting the daughter greet people at the reception, but that was not ‘important’ enough, and the two no longer talk since she is now an ex-sister in law.
Pull Up A Chair
In this post, an aunt helped a Redditor plan her wedding and make sure that everything ran smoothly. She was seated at a table close to the wedding party, but apparently, that wasn’t good enough once the bar opened and the drinks were poured freely.
The aunt began to get upset that she wasn’t considered part of the wedding party, and since that day, there have been some pretty hard feelings between the bride and her aunt.
Uncle Bob
Similar to another story, this uncle wanted to ensure the wedding was all about him. After previously falling out with the family, the whole bride and groom squad was already very nervous about how the uncle may act on their big day.
Before he arrived, he sent them an email stating that he was bringing along two of his friends and that they needed to be sat next to him. Of course, his request was impossible due to how last minute it was. He showed up anyway with his friends, who turned out to be two women he was dating.
The End Of An Era
In another case of a selfish member of the wedding party, this maid of honor would make no compromises when it came to the conditions on which she would attend the wedding and the rehearsal dinner. First, she wanted to walk down the aisle with her potentially crying baby.
Then, she would only attend the rehearsal if it was completely vegan. Eventually, the bride simply said no more and ended the friendship when it became clear her so-called friend did not value her.
My menu
Nowadays, many different people are choosing to live their life following various diets such a being a vegan or vegetarian. This one guest had been told by the bride and groom that there was only going to be one vegan dinner choice, as only three out of the 250 guests were vegan.
This didn’t go down very well with one of them, so she asked if she could bring her own chef and insisted that the Bride and Groom pay for it! Oh, the cheek!
No Pets Please
If a wedding is being hosted in an outdoor venue, then it might be okay to bring along a furry friend. However, this bride was extremely allergic to dogs, yet her husbands-to-be’s brother, who is a dog breeder, felt it would be okay to bring his prized dog with him.
The bride had to put her foot down as both she and her guests should not have to worry about sneezing through a ceremony, and a dog should not be at the reception.
Family Visits
The Groom’s best man had recently met a girl when he was traveling, and as the wedding was right around the corner, he decided to ask the Groom and Bride if he could bring her along and if there would be a place at the top table for her.
Seeing how into the girl their friend seemed to be, they decided to invite her. It later turned into a nightmare as she was so demanding that the wedding planner asked her to leave the event for being so rude to his staff.
Singles Table
One Redditor had a bridesmaid who refused to sit with the wedding party and instead wanted to be placed at the singles’ table. She was convinced that she would meet one of the eligible bachelors at her friend’s wedding and did not want to have to sit amongst all the other taken groomsmen.
The bride was really exasperated by this as it was supposed to be about celebrating her commitment not her friend possibly meeting someone new.
No Children Please
One Bride was a little nervous at the thought of her cousin traveling in for her wedding as she knew how high maintenance she could be. Once the cousin received the table plan, this is when the trouble began.
Calling the Bride, the cousin noted that she was at a table where there would be children and stated that she wanted to be moved. The children in question were, in fact, her nieces and nephews, but she stated that if she wasn’t assigned to an adult-only table, then she wouldn’t show up to the wedding!
Just Married
After all of these wedding story woes, we want to finish this on a high note rather than a low one. One Redditor shared a story in which their wedding went off exactly as it should, with touching speeches, a wedding party flash mob, and superb food.
The only thing they could have hoped for was that the night didn’t end and they got to spend more time celebrating with their family and friends, but that can be what an anniversary party is for!